So today is Father’s Day. Happy Father’s Day to all the men out there! I was going through my Facebook timeline this morning and came across two interesting posts on two different pages that I follow. The two posts were quite similar. On the one page, someone had posted something to the tune of “Happy father’s day to all the single mums out there” and the post on the other page simply read “Single mothers are not fathers!” Tjoooo! The carnage that is in those two posts! 😂😂😂 People are ALL THE WAY UP in their feelings like you won’t believe. This is my opinion on this evidently huge matter: Father’s day is for fathers. Period.
I don’t know what is going on with a lot of my fellow womanfolk but it seems to me that alarming number of women are mistaking feminism and equality with misandry. I mean the venom in these posts is quite shocking. Listen, I understand that a lot of single mothers are not single mothers by choice. Most of the children raised by single mothers were fathered by dead beat males. These so called men simply donated their sperm and that’s about it. I also understand that a lot of people were brought up by single mothers who did try to play the role of both parents and worked damn hard for their families. But guess what? There actually are men out there who are great fathers and who take care of their families like a real man should. These are the men we are celebrating today. We are celebrating our dads, grandfathers, brothers, husbands and uncles who were and are still there for us. We are celebrating and encouraging those good men in our lives who know what it really means to be man. Our celebrating them takes absolutely NOTHING away from you as a single mother and as a brilliant parent. One very telling comment I saw went something like “Why celebrate these deadbeat fathers anyway? Why do we encourage them?” Ermm no honey. I don’t think anyone in their right mind would have a day to celebrate those kinds of men. Like I said before, this is a day to celebrate the real fathers out there. What I see is women who are hurting and are still nursing that pain from their douchebag baby daddies. Anything positive anyone says about men, they interpret as relating to their own situation and that particular male who put them in their current situation.
I have friends who are single mothers and I honestly think they are THE most amazing people in the world. I really do. The way they provide for their children. The unfortunate stigma that is attached to single mothers. And still they carry on heads held high. They provide EVERYTHING that their children need. They are indeed super-parents! But at the end of the day, they are not fathers. They are great MOTHERS. They are fabulous PARENTS. Just not fathers. This doesn’t mean they are any less of a parent. It simply means they are not a father. They may play the father’s role but they are not a father just like a man can never be a mother no matter how caring and nurturing he is. Yes?
Let the great fathers have their day please. Let us encourage those that are doing it right to keep up the good work and also pass on these values to the next generation of men. It is only one day out of the year that they get publicly celebrated. I honestly really and truly do not understand what the fuss is about. Mother’s Day comes and goes peacefully and we celebrate all mothers nicely. I am yet to see single fathers demanding to be recognised on Mother’s Day. Why can’t we do the same for our men?